The Case of the Sketchy T-Shirt
You enjoy your leadership position and have been able to spend quality time with almost every person on your residence hall floor . There is one student in particular who hasn't seemed very interested in hanging out with you, but you've finally convinced them to attend an event you planned for Wednesday night about Bystander Intervention, regarding instances of sexual violence . When they show up, you notice they're wearing a sexually suggestive, and potentially offensive t-shirt .
You know the shirt is sexually suggestive, totally inappropriate for the event, and out of dress code, but if you tell them to go and change, they probably will not come back . It will be like starting to build that relationship all over again . Only this time, you think they will be even less likely to open up to you in the future .
> What would you do?
> How do you resolve the conflict between individual freedom and the needs of the community?
I would make them go change. They knew what they were going to and they should have worn appropriate clothing, especially to something like that. I think that they have a right to their own opinion, but if you are purposely going to do something like that then they shouldn't have even went. It seems like they weren't really didn't care whether they went or not. They shouldn't have gone if they felt that way. I would explain to him/her that the shirt is inappropriate for the event.
ReplyDeleteI would go ask him to go and change or cover his shirt in some way. That is his responsibility and it is all on him. He knew what he was coming to and shouldn't push people like he is trying. Honestly if that particular person does pull something like that, I wouldn't want my group or even my self associated with him.
ReplyDeleteI would politely ask them to go and change or let them borrow a tshirt or something. I would love to become friends with this person but they would need to know what is right and wrong and wearing that tshirt to this gathering is just inappropriate. To me, that would be a bad thing on their part because not only are they gaining attention but they are also setting off a bad impression on fellow students in that hall.
ReplyDeleteI would tell him to put something over it because no one wants to see that. They should know what to wear and what not to do.To me that would be a bad thing on their part because not only are they gaining attention but they are also setting off a bad impression on fellow students in that hall.
ReplyDeleteThey probably knew that it was inappropriate for that particular event. I would tell them to go change. If they don't come back and want to associate themselves with me then I don't want to try to make them do something they don't want to do. If they're going to act like that when they probably knew that shirt was inappropriate for the event.
ReplyDeleteI would tell them. They are obviously not interested and that goes with the saying. " You can't get everyone to like you." That saying is true I have lived it. Mr. Alexander taught us the difference between needs and wants. I think in a community we can help one another in the needs department and have freedom in things we want. if you need something and someone has extra lead them that. But all wants are self sufficient.
ReplyDeleteI would ask the person why they chose that shirt and if it pertains to something that might have happened to them. I would suggest or ask politely if they could change their shirt and if they go and change and then come back I will know that we will be able to be good friends. If the person just went home and didn't come back then I know that the person doesn't care about the feelings of other people due to the offensive t-shirt.
ReplyDeleteI would ask them how they feel about that shirt and why. Then i would say politly that shit is not appropriate for this event. I would suggest them to leave and change and come back. If they do not agree to do that then i would just tell them to leave. If he just left and didnt come back he obviously doesnt care about me or other peoples feelings.
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